Rick Beeman

  It has been a really hard week/month/year. I mentioned yesterday about the Spiritual Novocaine that has sustained my peace through a very trying time.  I’m still trying to balance hope amidst the growing reality that encompasses me.  It’s a delicate balance to keep my hopes up while not getting my hopes too far up.  Seems confusing?  Welcome to my life.  I’ve been so disappointed in my own actions which in part led to my present circumstances.  So I guess I’m trying to protect myself from even more disappointments.  I’m hoping this is rock bottom.  I just am loathe to discover if there are any sublevels to rock bottom.  I remember going through my first divorce.  Every time I thought I hit rock bottom there were still a few more sub-levels which I stumbled to.  The difference this time, instead of praying for restoration, which I am, I am instead focusing my prayers on seeking God at every opportunity.  My faith is wholl...

  By all accounts I should be an absolute mess right now.  Perhaps tomorrow I will be.  But for today, I’m filled with such an uneasy peace that doesn’t really make much logical sense.  It has been an incredibly difficult week emotionally speaking.  My greatest fear in life is happening right before my eyes.  It’s like a slow moving car crash that I’m unable to do anything about as much as I try.  If I would have been in this position just six months ago, I probably would’ve needed some type of anti-depression medication just to survive.  For now, the sense of unease is palatable because at this point it seemingly seems unavoidable.  My wife and I are in the process of separating all of our shared accounts, divesting financially and socially of our all our family connections, assets come next.  Think of getting off netflix, insurance, phone plans.  So this separation is getting real.  It went from Theoretical to Practical this ...

  Yesterday was a really bad day for me.  The grief seems to come in waves and yesterday was a Tsunami.  I deliberately did not want to write because who wants to read more about me crying in my keyboard. (Apparently I have several readers from the Netherlands that do,  I don’t know how this gets all over the world but I’m thankful)  I had been having a lot of hopeful yet even happy days recently.  But yesterday the separation/divorce escalated from theoretical to more practical. It’s becoming more of a sad reality even though I’m constantly praying for miracles to occur.   It shook me to me core as I don’t want this.  I don’t want any of it.  But my vote no longer counts.  One person in this marriage knows this is a really bad idea and the other person doesn’t know it yet but will someday.  So I did the only thing I know to do that works.  I waited.  Then I prayed.  I praised God.  It didn’t fix my attitude or d...

  It’s been awhile since I blogged. I honestly missed sharing but I wanted to make sure I kept my priorities in the right place, thus the absence.  I had the kids a good chunk of the winter break from school and it was fabulous.  My focus was entirely on them.  There was just a lot of giggling and joy spread around.  From the despair of this past year for me it was such a welcome change.  I was anticipating a huge drop off in despair/grieving once I dropped the kids off.  You see, I loved being married, I loved being a great dad, I loved being a family.  To have that ripped away has been very painful.  I’m doing the only thing I know to do and that is to lean into my faith.  I don’t have any answers right now and I don’t know what the future holds.  I only know the promise that “Seek First the Kingdom and His Righteousness and ALL these things will be added unto you.”  I’m seeing that play out in real time.  God is faithfu...

  I’ve had an abundance of pendulum swinging days this past year. It seems like I’m living the life of extremes from the despair to the hopeful on a daily and sometimes hourly basis.  The swings have been so extreme that at times I feel emotionally bipolar.  Intellectually, I know that God will see me through this.  I know that I’m supposed to live a life reflecting the fruits of the spirit, Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Gentleness and Self-control.  I know when I’m living my life right, which I am and plan on continuing to do so, I will exhibit those traits in my life on a consistent basis in the future.  No where on that list is loneliness, depression, despair, hopelessness which I sometimes experience.  So I know those emotions/feelings are not from God. I have to trudge through until the real fruits re-emerge which they invariably will and have at many times these past few months.  So I asked Chat GPT if I was crazy.  Th...

  I figured today would be better and it certainly was. I just need to anticipate the horrible days and incorporate them into my routine as part of the recovery process.  I’m thankful that these horrible days are becoming fewer and far between.  I’m grateful to be making significant psychological progress.  6 months ago it was 6 and ½ horrible days and a ½ decent day.  Then it switched to 5 horrible days and 2 decent ones.  The closer I got to chasing God the more the horrible days inverted with the good days.  I’m thankful that I’m up to 5 good days to every 2 bad days now.  I aim to keep the streak headed in the right direction.  The positive part for me is that the good days are NOT dictated by circumstance.  Thus they are more achievable with consistency.  The thing I’m doing is “Seeking God with all my heart, soul and mind” on a continuous basis.   All these things are slowly being added unto me.   Today was a ve...

  I should have seen this coming.  I tried to prepare myself even.  But today I’m just so discouraged.  Perhaps its because I had such a wonderful weekend.  I mean it was a spectacular weekend with my girls coming on the heels of feeling hopeful and optimistic that my life may have finally turned around.  I remember an old sermon from TD Jakes that I heard exhorting, “Don’t let your highs get too high or your lows get too low.”  I leaned into my highs because it just felt so good being a kind of family this weekend.  Now I’m facing the consequence of the emotional bounce back the opposite way.  Maybe I should work on not letting my lows get too low again.   Nothing consequential happened to me today either way.  Maybe its simply because I miss my girls.  Their absence reminds me that I’m alone without a full time family. If you do have a family, cherish them.  I thought I was doing that but apparently I was doing it t...

  What a wonderful last few days it has been. I’ve trying not to be obsessive or addicted to writing in this blog.  I am a creature of habit and like doing things in a routine, as long as it stays healthy.  When it wasn’t conducive to write, I chalked  it up to having my priorities in the right place.  I had my girls this past weekend and it was absolutely wonderful.  I love spending time with them so much.  I’m sure to value and cherish each moment I have with them as the time is so limited.   One of things my youngest loves to do is go to the playground by my townhouse.  It’s a small little part which is fenced in.  So we take the dog with us even though the sign tells us not to do so.  We seemingly are the only ones that use the park and we always pick up after the dog, so I’m willing to challenge that rule.  But this time, surprisingly enough, all three girls wanted to go to the  playground.  I mean, I had a ...

  It’s confounding.  I am so filled with hope right now.  Yet nothing really out of the ordinary happened in the physical realm to warrant that hope.  In fact, I’m in the same situation as I was in May when I was at the very bottom filled with despair.  The only thing I can really attribute it to is my faith.  I’ve mentioned before that there is nothing really I can do to fix my situation.  The only thing I know to do is to “Seek God first and All these things will be added unto you.” So that’s what I’ve been doing, Seeking God at every opportunity.  While my situation on the outside doesn’t seem to have changed,  the internal side of has changed.  I really can’t explain it.  Maybe that’s why they say it’s the Peace that passes all understanding because it makes no sense.   I should be just as miserable as I was before but for some reason I’m not.  The only thing that I can reason is that God is faithful.  The cr...

It is so strange, bizarre and exhilarating what is happening to me. I am actually noticing it in real time.  I’m being transformed.  Now I’ve prayed, prayed and prayed to God to do certain things.  I was quite specific and insistent on the exact details of my prayers.  I told God exactly what I wanted Him to do and when.  And I kept praying and praying and praying.  There are always three ways that God ALWAYS answers prayers.  Yes, No, and not yet.  This has been true of my life time and time again.  What He also revealed to me is that God can change my heart.  I prayed for two to three solid years for God to restore my first marriage.  I prayed fervently and passionately.  The good part is that the more I prayed to closer I got to God.  Then the revelation hit.  God hit me with a No to my prayer but with a caveat I later found out.  It was No (because I have something better for you).  I just didn’t realize...